How To "Deal"

If anyone knows about heartache its me. I've been through it all. When i see another girl going through something my instinct is to soothe them from that pain. Men seem to have no conscience these days but i want girls to understand a thing or two about men.

Men are very simple creatures, not because they are easy to deal with, but rather they aren't smart enough to be complex and have layers lol. What you see is what you get with a man. If they don't seem interested then 9 times out of 10 they aren't. Men don't waste time on things and if they don't seem into you then the best thing for you to do is move on to someone who appreciates your time. So many girls want a man that doesn't even take the time to give you what you want out of him. Theres more that we want from a man besides his physical, we want his heart too. When you have a mans heart he will be singing the chorus to Bruno Mars "Grenade". Men will do ANYTHING for a woman if he's truly invested in you, if he makes you suffer even for a second then hes not worth the attention. Why give him what he wants if he doesn't give you what you want? People that truly love you are willing to compromise.


Getting over someone is hard but not impossible. A man taught me that the best way to get over someone is "distraction". As soon as you start thinking about them simply start doing something else to distract yourself from dwelling on your thoughts. Stay busy, be around people that make you laugh, have new goals for yourself. Dwelling on the past only keeps you where you are, and you want to keep life going. No man is worth you being sad, EVER. Hes not calling, not returning your calls and theres a reason. If he wanted you HE would be with you. Its as simple as it sounds..


If he doesn't want you than its his loss, God must have someone better for you.. in the mean time enjoy life, you will be okay.. i promise :)

The Ex Chronicles: Popping up after a Breakup

If you are in a relationship and one of your exes "randomly" calls you to see how you are doing, please know its not for innocent reasons. Know the signs of trouble.

If you are broken up with an ex, everyone knows the best way to move on is to cut all ties with them. When you start a new relationship, the best thing for you to do is start fresh without the baggage.

So now you have been in a relationship, a happy one, and an ex reaches out, do you allow that? If you want to hear what the ex has to say, thats fine but under NO CIRCUMSTANCES to you let the communication continue! If the ex is trying to get back into your life THERES A REASON!! Ill let you know from experience its never a good reason. If your ex is even thinking about you then they havent moved on. That innocent situation can get from bad to worse.

If your partner is not cool with the opened lines of communication then STOP. The only way its ok is if you were already cool with them BEFORE the relationship so that the partner knows up front and they will have the choice whether to be a part of that new relationship or not. But NEVER rehash an old relationship well into your new one, that will raise many suspicions.

What people must know is if the ex knows you are in a new relationship and they continue to interact with them like "they used to", please know they DON'T respect you or your relationship. Dont tell me "she got a man, she don't want me".. if she had a man she'd be respecting her own relationship and NOT reaching out to your ass... i bet if her man knew what she was doing then he'd have the very same issue with her actions. The ex does not care how she is affecting your relationship, and thats not a person that truly cares about you, so why bring that person back in the picture?

If you respect your relationship then leave that ex where they belong, GONE! Its not about the partner being insecure, its about them being smart enough to see when something isn't right and acting on it.

If you want a lasting relationship than leave your exes in your PAST!!!!!!!!

Happy Wife, Happy Life..

Fellas, You wanna know how to have a lasting relationship??? KEEP US WOMEN HAPPY! As long as the woman is not happy, NOTHING will be happy.. Ask any old head how their 35 year marriage has lasted so long, most likely they will say "just go along with whatever the wife says". When the woman is happy then everything else will continue to be in working order. The woman keeps everything together, especially in a family setting with children. We take care of the kids, the home front, do all the cooking, chores, carpooling, keeping track of all the bills, organization, errands, and lastly we keep our man happy in bed. All the men need to do is keep their dick in their pants, maintain loyalty and bring home the bacon.

Dont argue with us, its a losing battle for you. We will always have the last word (whether we're right or wrong) and we remember EVERYTHING you say so if you contradict yourself be prepared for us to throw it at you during a fight. Do you wanna be happy or do you wanna be right??? The choice is yours, but if you want a happy relationship then cater to your woman and pick your battles with her. Let some shit roll over... its not worth the attitude your woman is gonna give you for the rest of the week.

Make sure you make your woman feel special everyday. Like Rihanna sings make her feel like the only girl in the world. As long as you are giving us a daily boost of compliments it will benefit you in the long run. Notice the small changes she makes. If she changes her hair, new outfit, smells good, TELL HER! You will stay in her good graces.

Most importantly when we talk to you, we dont want you to fix our problems or even want your input, we just want you to LISTEN!!!! Just seem interested in whatever she wants to talk about (even if you could care less). Thats very important to a woman. If i talk about my nail polish for 20 mins, my boyfriend will give me 100% of his attention out of respect for me. The more you are interested in our interests the more we will be open to yours. Now that my boyfriend shows interests in my favorite things now i watch and talk about sports with him more consistently. It makes us more open to the things you enjoy.

Do not make constant negative observations about us. We are already self conscious about ourselves as it is, dont add to it. Dont tell us you hate our hair a certain way, or we wear too much makeup, thats not up to you to say. When we ASK for your opinion only THEN do you give us your observation. Something like that will ruin our entire mood. Dont pick us apart, women hate that.

Moral of the story is, the woman is always right, compromise, and just agree (even if you dont want to) and you will have a happier woman..

Therapy Session: All men do NOT suck!!!!

I have heard for so many years that all men are trash, and that good men do not exist. I myself felt that way for many years, with many reasons to confirm it. But i realized that maybe, just maybe i had a little something to do with the failures ive come across. These are the men that I chose, and everything they did to me was just because i was who they had the opportunity to do those bad things to. If it wasnt me it would have been someone else, i realized it wasnt personal. These men had alot of growing up to do, and it was my fault for allowing these men to stand next to me as if they deserved me. So basically the more you learn about yourself and how you feel about YOU, then the answers will become more clear as to why these things continue to happen to you. Of course what these men do aren't right, its actually inhumane to me, BUT i continued to accept these things and did not have standards for myself. Once i realized what i was worth and what i deserved, i was able to sift out the BullS**t men out of my life to make room for men with more potential. I also had to be ok with myself completely as well, be happy whether i was with someone or not. You cannot solely depend on one individual to keep you happy in LIFE. All they are responsible for is making you happy in your relationship, but if you are not happy in life overall it will make the relationship strenuous. Be able to carry your own weight, and if you have a good man he will take that weight off of you. A woman that feels good about HERSELF will attract a good man. I promise you they are out there. So when you see yourself in a terrible relationship just look in the mirror and ask yourself "what are YOU gonna do about that?". Its just that simple, the key to having a good man is in US. Discover your own strength and you will go far in life. I hope this helps someone, and if you have anything to add to this feel free to comment. Good men DO EXIST!!!!